What is Your Intention Starting This Relationship?

What is Your Intention Starting This Relationship?

There are two types of people when it comes to relationships- those who are in it for the long haul and those who are just looking for a good time. And while both have their merits, it’s important to know what your dating intentions are before you start.

What is Your Intention Starting This Relationship?

If you’re looking for a serious relationship that leads to marriage, then it’s best to date someone who is also looking for the same thing. That way, you’ll avoid any heartache down the road.

But if you’re just looking to have fun, it’s okay to date someone only interested in a casual relationship.

Intention setting is important in any area of life, and it’s especially important when it comes to relationships.

What is Your Intention Starting This Relationship?

When you make your intent clear from the beginning, it sets the tone for the entire relationship.

It lets your partner know where you’re at and what you’re looking for.

And if they don’t share your good intentions, then it’s best to end things before they get complicated.

Are you looking to share some positive energy and conversation, or looking for the promise of marriage?

Love?

Intention of Love starting a relationship

Loving relationships and marriage begin when you create a sense of what you desire from your very first dates.

Setting intentions is important work.

If you don’t get clear on what you want, you may find yourself dating online in endless circles and never moving forward, or worse–settling.

Know yourself, set intentions, and go confidently in the direction of your dreams!

What about you?

So ask yourself: What are your dating intentions in this relationship?

If you don’t know if you want to be married, or just involved, then it might be a sign to reflect on what’s important to YOU and set intentions before dating.

Maybe you need to work on your self esteem or self love before you pursue a love life.

Defining the Relationship – Especially when Online Dating

Defining the relationship. Date in the shopping mall

When you meet someone new, it’s easy to get swept up in the fun of it all and not be aware or take notice of your date’s affection.

For example, you may feel like you’re just starting as friends, but your date may think you’re in a loving relationship.

Be upfront with yourself and others about what you want in the long term, and what the road to get there looks like. This means being upfront about your intentions and setting realistic expectations.

Not Sure What You Want?

If you’re not sure what you want, or not ready for a commitment, it’s ok to say that, too.

Be prepared for them to walk away if that’s not what they’re looking for. (And that’s OK!).

It’s also ok to tell them you have romantic feelings but want to take things slow. This will help them understand your intentions better, and may even create a deeper level of intimacy.

All About the Trust

Don’t lead someone on or be dishonest about your feelings.

Put your best foot forward, but don’t get the wrong idea… relationships are built on trust, and that trust starts with defining where you are, and where you intend to go emotionally.

So, what is your intention starting this new relationship?

Determine it for yourself and communicate it, and you’ll be on your way to a successful and meaningful date.

Get on the Same Page… Honesty Is Key

Vietnamese couple talking in a cafe having an honest conversation.

When you begin by being honest with yourself, then you can be truthful with someone else. This means you are more likely to find someone on the same course with similar intentions.

This practically eliminates the struggle of wasting time with the wrong man or woman.

What Do YOU Want?

Ask yourself, “Why am I dating? What are my motives?” If your answer is anything other than “to have a healthy, happy, fulfilling relationship with this individual,” then maybe you should rethink dating.

Dating requires understanding someone else’s intentions, interests, and the benefit of doubt so you and they start with a clean slate confident that you can ask questions and listen with kindness.

Some people might just want a new friend. They aren’t necessarily looking for anything romantic. That’s okay! Just be honest about it, so you don’t lead them on.

What Do They Want?

Dating is about learning the other person’s intentions… maybe they’re looking for something more romantic but not marriage. If that’s the case, then it saves both of you a lot of time and energy if you know you have different intentions from the beginning.

Online dating helps filter out people with a habit you don’t like by the words they use when filling in information about their lives.

Honesty is always the best policy, especially when it comes to relationships. So ask yourself, “What is my intention? What are my motives?” Tell your partner. You’ll be glad you did!

Boundaries Are Important in Your Dating Life

Business couple setting dating life boundaries

Whether it be friendly or romantic, setting boundaries can help to avoid any hurt feelings or misunderstandings further down the line.

It’s important to be upfront about what you’re looking for from the get-go and to respect the boundaries your partner sets for themselves.

Good fences make good neighbors, and good boundaries make for healthy relationships.

It’s okay to be choosy when it comes to who you let into your life, and it’s important to remember that not everyone is a good match. If you’re not sure where to start, here are a few questions you should both discuss:

What kind of relationship are you looking for?

Are you looking for a strictly platonic friendship, or something more romantic? What your intention is will help to set the boundaries for the type of relationship you want.

What do you expect from this person?

How much time are you willing to spend on this relationship?

Some people are focused on their career but know they need to start some sort of social life to avoid being a hermit. Other people are happy with just a few close friends. Know what you’re looking for, and be upfront about it.

What do they expect from you?

The best relationships are reciprocal, so both parties need to be giving and taking equally. If one person is doing all the giving, it’s not a healthy relationship.

What are your deal-breakers?

We all have things that are non-negotiable when it comes to our relationships. Maybe you don’t tolerate cheating, or you can’t stand liars. Talk about what your deal-breakers are, and be prepared to walk away if the other person can’t meet those expectations.

Are there any ground rules that need to be set?

Dating Intentions

Dating Intentions - Affectionate dates

Before talking to someone else, it’s also important to get your thoughts straight.

Are you ready for a relationship?

Do you have time for a relationship?

Can you handle the commitment?

These are all questions that you need to ask yourself before getting too emotionally attached to someone.

If you can answer all of these questions positively, then you’re ready to start a new relationship. Just remember to set boundaries and talk to each other, and you’ll be able to navigate any bumps in the road that come your way.

Cherish the Moments

Whether you begin the journey with a potential life-long friend or the first date with your soul mate, take time to appreciate what is happening in the present.

When we focus our attention on savoring each moment, it can change how we experience relationships.

Right Now

The point is: RIGHT NOW is a memory from the past you will look back on in the future.

In any new relationship, there will be a lot of uncertainty and excitement. It is easy to get wrapped up in all of the “what ifs” and miss out on what wonderful things are happening right in front of you.

It’s All Right

It is important to remember that you are where you are supposed to be, and your loved ones are right where they are supposed to be.

Everything happens for a reason, so don’t get caught up in stressing about the future. Just enjoy each occasion as it comes!

Stay Positive

The biggest thing you can do to keep yourself positive is to desire the right mindset.

Be optimistic and think about all of the great things that are about to happen.

To remind yourself to be in the present, you can think to yourself “I appreciate this (restaurant, movie, dinner, date, marriage)” or “This person is special, I’m lucky to be here with them.”

Life Is to Be Lived

The point is when you are in the present, you can be more open and accepting of what is happening.

You aren’t focused on the past (which you can’t change) or the future (which is unpredictable). You are just living in the here and now!

Knowing how to cherish the times you are in will allow you to become more attentive and concentrated, which can only result in a more enjoyable relationship… Embrace the journey!

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